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Even if you have never thought about it, our children can help us do chores around the house from a young age. It is not that they do it alone but that they help us and that they gradually acquire responsibilities.
The important thing is that we choose the right tasks for each age. Some children never ask you or show interest in household chores. But others want to help and help.
Our children are capable of many tasks. At first they will be wrong and they will do wrong but soon they will learn from their mistakes. You have to let them try it even if you have to help them finish or improve the result later.
5 Benefits of involving children in household chores
1- Develop motor skills.
Making the bed, tidying up the toys, dressing up, or setting the table are excellent exercises to stimulate children’s balance and motor coordination.
They are also a good workout to encourage eye-hand coordination and object grip and hold movement.
2- It stimulates the capability for collaboration.
When children know that they are involved in household chores, they feel like they are part of a team.
This feeling of belonging to a group and being able to collaborate with the rest of the family members will develop their ability to follow instructions and their ability to work in a group.
3- It fosters self-confidence.
The fact that parents ask their children to help them with housework represents a lot for children.
The little ones will perceive it as a great gesture of trust and will feel valued by their parents, which will stimulate self-confidence and self-esteem.
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4- It enhances the sense of organization.
It has been shown that children who participate in household chores from a young age tend to be more organized and successful compared to those who do not until an advanced age.
A benefit that is not only expressed in the family environment but also has a positive impact on their academic and professional performance.
5- Facilitates the establishment of habits.
Habits are very important in children’s lives as they not only allow them to organize better but also make them feel more secure.
In addition, it has been found that children who follow habits at home tend to have a better academic performance since they tend to have a greater development of their logical thinking.
Therefore, helping at home is a way to teach them to create healthy habits.
Keys to involving children in household chores
1- Show them how it’s done
Before asking your child to help you with a task at home, it is important that you explain how it is done. In this way you will avoid that the little one is frustrated by not knowing how to do what you ask.
2- Incorporate tasks little by little
Do not burden your child, remember that he is still a child and that he must also have free time to play. Therefore, give him responsibilities little by little and according to his level of maturity.
3- Arm yourself with patience
No matter how well your child makes the bed or gets dressed, it is probable that he does not do it as well as you do:
Either because he does not pay due attention to it or because he has not yet developed the skills required by that task.
In any case, it is important that you do not scold him because he has not done the task well, instead, you can teach him to perfect it after having recognized his effort.
Keep in mind that even if it did not turn out as well as you expected, the little one has given his best and if you criticize him, you will only make him feel bad and damage his own security.
4- Use positive reinforcement
When children are learning, they make mistakes. It is normal for her to break a glass or not make the bed as well as you do. Don’t scold him, help him and show him how to do better.
Focus on rewarding the things you do well and recognizing your effort and participation, even if the results are not perfect.
5- Adapt responsibilities to your age
Each household chore requires a set of skills that children will only develop as they grow. When they are very young, they are likely to be ready to pick up their toys but unable to get dressed because they have not yet fully developed coordination.
Therefore, if you ask him to help you with a task for which he is not yet prepared, it is likely that he will end up frustrated and lose confidence in himself. To prevent this from happening it is important that the tasks are adjusted to your age.
Age Appropriate Chores for Kids
The following table of tasks includes some of the activities that your child can be prepared for at every moment of his development. Obviously, before putting it into practice, you should assess whether it really fits your child’s level since each child grows at a different time.
From 2 to 3 years
If you want the little ones to have a task, try to make them very simple and related to their own autonomy. Children at that age can start eating, dressing, and undressing without help.
They will also love watering the plants and helping us in the garden. They can set the children’s table with plastic cups and plates. A good idea is to teach them from a young age to collect toys from their room.
From 4 to 5 years
These are children with more autonomy who can help with more household chores. They can set and remove the table, feed the pet every day.
Even under our supervision they can put their plate in the dishwasher. They can also help pick up dried leaves in the garden and water the plants with a watering can.
From 6 to 7 years old
These children can already help with many more chores around the house. The first with tasks related to their personal autonomy such as brushing their faces and teeth alone.
They should also put the dirty clothes in the laundry basket, prepare their backpack, their homework and their clothes for the next day and keep their room tidy every day.
They can help you make the shopping list and accompany you to the supermarket. Other tasks may include answering the phone and running simple errands and helping to fill the dishwasher.
From 8 to 9 years
At this age they can already help us with household chores proper. They can help with more specific tasks like taking out the trash, vacuuming, mopping, and even sweeping.
They can also put the dirty clothes in the basket for the washing machine or keep the clean and ironed ones in the drawers of the closet.
They can help you wash the car and remove weeds from the garden. As for their autonomy, they already have to be able to organize their homework and clothes on their own and to keep their room tidy at all times.
From 10 to 12 years old
At these ages, children must have complete autonomy. They should shower without help, organize their room, keep their closet organized with clean clothes and drawers tidy and choose their clothes for the next day.
They can do their homework by themselves and prepare their backpack and books for the next day.
They should also check their class schedule and call their classmates if they have forgotten to write down something important.
As for household chores in addition to the above, they can fill the dishwasher with food dishes and even start it.
From 12 to 14 years old
Finally, boys and girls from 12 to 14 years old already have to have total autonomy in terms of their school duties and tasks.
They can help dress and undress their little brothers. They can also run simple errands for the family, such as going to buy the bread or the newspaper.
Another idea is to ask them to help us:
- put the clothes in the washing machine,
- separating the colored from the white,
- hanging it to dry and folding what does not need a touch of iron such as pajamas, underwear or socks.
They also have to help set and remove the table and dishwasher and sweep the kitchen after meals.
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