How to Build Up Your Child's Self-Esteem

How to Build Up Your Child’s Self-Esteem

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As a parent, you want nothing more than your child to be happy and strong in his/her shoes. Building self-esteem in a child is important for their happiness. 

How can you as a parent help your child to have more confidence in him or herself? Here are 15 practical tips to build your child’s self-esteem.

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How to Build Up Your Child’s Self-Esteem

How to Build Up Your Child's Self-Esteem

1: What is your child good at?

Parents often point out to their children what is not going well or what they cannot do. Try to turn that around whenever possible and point out to them what is going well. 

Look at what your child is capable of and what his talents are and always go a step further. 

This way you can always ask something more from him, for example in terms of independence or doing something yourself. 

When your child has reached the next point, it will make him feel good and his confidence will grow.

2: More confidence by doing it yourself

As a parent, you want to protect and protect your child from mistakes and dangers. However, you will have to let your child do things yourself, because it is precisely this that gives your child more confidence. 

Teach your child independence by letting him try things himself (even if it is not going as fast and well), letting him solve small problems himself, asking for help himself, talking to other people himself.

If your child really tries and does things yourself, you can compliment him by saying, for example: 

“You found it exciting/difficult, but you did it all by yourself!” or “Gee, tried all by yourself, it worked better than last time!”

This will give your child more confidence and more often he will undertake things himself and dare to take on challenges.

3: You may be insecure

Everyone is sometimes insecure, especially with new experiences, making choices, or in unknown situations. It is important at these moments that you mention the uncertainty and do not cover it up. 

For example, you can say, “Are you excited? That is allowed. Everyone sometimes feels insecure about new things, that is part of it. And if you try it then you will feel very proud afterward and it will be much less exciting the next time. ‘

4: Give compliments

Giving compliments is important for the confidence of your child. If your child is doing something new, it is important that you show that you have seen what your child has done and that you are saying it. 

A nice way is to say ‘succeeded’ or ‘you succeeded’ instead of ‘well done’. That says something about what your child did for it and not what you think of it. That gives him even more confidence from within.

5: Let your child decide and fix things

Insecure children often hide behind their parents. They may have a tendency to ask for parental confirmation in everything. Try to bounce the ball back by letting your child decide for themselves and fix things. 

For example, ask, 

  • “How would you solve it yourself?”, 
  • “What do you think of it?”, “What would you do yourself?” 

By asking these questions, he learns to think for himself and to trust his own decision.

6: Your child is good the way he/she is

One of the most important life lessons you can give a child is that he should always be himself. Give your child the confidence and confirmation that they can be who they want to be. 

Your child is good the way he is. That way your child will be much more confident in life. Also, he is more likely to accept others the way they are. It is important to set a good example yourself.

7: The importance of education

Show your child regularly that it is very important to go to school. Emphasize that he really does not just have to earn tens: 

The bottom line is that he does his best, pay close attention, ask questions, and continue to develop himself. 

Teach your child that it is also important that he continues to study subjects outside of school that he finds interesting.

8: The power of the word ‘yet’

Does your child regularly say: 

  • “I can’t do that”,  
  • “I don’t know”? 

Then you can answer: “You can’t do that yet!”. That implies that it will come if you continue, for example, practice, age, or ask for help and make mistakes. And that is part of it if you want to learn things.

9: Self-awareness

We are all wrong and the children too. An important part when it comes to having more confidence in themselves is being more self-aware. And above all, also correcting the criticism of the rest as long as they are constructive. 

Only those who acknowledge their mistakes can learn from them. But only in moderation and really constructive. If we criticize children all the time we will only increase frustration and therefore the loss of confidence in themselves.

It is important that our children listen carefully to our advice. We must help them to know their mistakes, but also to value them when they do things well. 

If we praise the effort and the will when they do things well, they can be much more self-aware and know how to differentiate faster when they do something right or wrong.

10: More autonomy

It is important that children become self-confident so that they become much more independent and autonomous over time. Especially in the phase of children is when we must influence this. 

Small acts such as eating alone, doing their homework without review, doing their night routine without supervision, make them increasingly independent.

Of course, in difficult situations, you should always support the little ones and make them not feel alone. But on the other hand, you must let them know that they are self-sufficient and that they can face any adversity themselves. 

When you see that he is capable of making his own decisions, you will feel very proud of them.

11: Emotional control

Parents should help children identify and recognize their emotions, and of course, encourage them to show them. 

They should know that feeling bad is not right, and that in the event that at some point they do not feel comfortable in a class or in some activity with more children, they should say so. 

By showing their feelings they will be able to channel the problem much better and thus be able to reflect with them on what to do.

12: Give them time and show them close

It is especially important for children that we take enough time for them. A conversation with them or just a gesture can be very helpful for them. 

Children pay attention to everything, and highly value this type of behavior so close, even if you don’t believe it.

13: Personal identity

We are not all the same, we each have different characteristics that are what really make us unique people. This is important so that you know how to pass them on to children from an early age. 

They must know that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and that none of us are equal, so they must value themselves above all else. Loving yourself must be above your priorities.

The same happens with feelings and faces. Children should know that there are many different activities and hobbies and that they should not be carried away by what other classmates do or are attracted to. 

They must have personality and defend what they like further than what other children may like.

14: There is no giving up

Of course, parents would like to protect their children in all the adversities they encounter in life, but this may not always be the case. In some moments, they must be the ones to take charge of the problems and defend themselves. 

Remember that if they don’t, they will never be able to learn to do it autonomously and independently in adulthood.

15: Interaction with other children

In order for your child to develop his social skills, it is important that he has the opportunity to be with other children from the beginning. 

Whether in the nursery, with other cousins ​​, or just in the park. This will build confidence with other people and at the same time be able to interact and feel comfortable with more children.

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